81% of people who make New Years Resolutions fail1.   The most troubling thing about this is, if we are failing, than what are we are teaching our children?   Have you ever had the same resolution two years running?  Not surprisingly, the top two New Year’s resolutions are “lose weight” and “quit smoking”.   If you’re a student of the Law of Attraction, you’ll notice that both of these resolutions focus on what the person does not want to have in their life:  weight and smoking!   Anyone who’s ever desperately tried not to eat that piece of cake sitting in front of them knows that what we focus on, we are drawn towards.  So choose a resolution you can stick to by focusing it on what you want, not on what you’re trying to avoid.   Here are three tips to teach this to your children:

1.    Make it positive! Focus your child on the positive or what they want to have happen.   Remember, what your children focus on, they’ll be drawn towards, so   instead of   “I will stop forgetting to do my homework” choose “I make time each day to do my homework”.
2.    Pre-pave it!2  Help them state a resolution as though it already exists. This helps your child actually create change!  Something stated in the future will stay in the future.  So instead of “I will always make time for my homework.” choose “I always make time to do my homework”.
3.    Plan it!   Find manageable small ways your child can focus on success every day.  Start by taping the resolution where it will be read every day.  Then help your child create time each day to live that resolution!

[1] . Angus Reid Strategies. From December 17 to 18, 2007,

[2] for more on Pre-paving See Elisabeth Fayt’s – Paving it Forward, 2008