It’s so fun to watch her on stage. My 16-year-old daughter has become such a beautiful dancer after years of training. So the look of shame on her face was un-mistakable to a mother. It flashed in a split second and was gone. But no mother could have missed it. It had followed a moment of her dancing in highlight from the group. She had looked beautiful, so I wondered what was wrong.
“I was covering for a spacing issue” she told me later in the car. “Someone else was in the wrong place, and I had to change the moves to cover it. I just didn’t know what else to do.”
It was such powerful mirror for me. How often had I walked off stage after speaking thinking of the point I’d forgotten to say or the sequence I’d messed up, only to realize the mistake was invisible to the audience. It was only my shame at it that might be visible – if I choose to make it so.
Are you getting stuck in your mistakes? Or are you courageously moving forward?
Self-forgiveness is an important topic to success in life, because without it, we draw others into our mistakes, rather than moving forward. Taking accountability for your mistake does not necessarily require public admission and scrutiny. Putting a smile on your face and moving forward can be an outward act of generosity, that you value other’s experience of the situation more than your own need to address the mistake.
Sometimes the most courageous move it to keep dancing.