Someone whose work relationship you value gives you feedback about how to better deal with them. You:
a) Add it to the pile of feedback you’ll get to later if enough people complain,
b) get annoyed and start thinking about where they’re not meeting your expectations,
c) jump for joy that someone is investing in a deeper relationship with you.
Intimacy is not a word we often use in business. And it’s appropriate to think about. Because there are people you do business with that you want deep relationship with. The tough conversations, where you share what’s really happening and what you true communication needs are is your opening to intimacy. Deep relationship lies on the other side of tough conversations.
Today’s tip – next time you’re in a tough conversation, notice if your belief system is that “something is wrong” and change it to “everything is very right. This is our access to deep connection.”